tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1532204237192804954.post3243367443078265599..comments2023-09-28T00:15:27.471-07:00Comments on Farm Girl: Let's all take a break from improving ourselvesMiriamhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/07553429775991816622noreply@blogger.comBlogger12125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1532204237192804954.post-37069240744557505702019-02-24T18:37:13.098-08:002019-02-24T18:37:13.098-08:00I just know that it will happen one day with both ...I just know that it will happen one day with both of us having roots on each other's continents!💖<br /><br />And thank you so much for your kind words! I feel very strongly about this, and I think many other people do too. We're all done with being told that we're not good enough, because we are! Just the way we are.Miriamhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07553429775991816622noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1532204237192804954.post-73501916612708613462019-02-23T06:52:14.851-08:002019-02-23T06:52:14.851-08:00goddamn miriam. (so sorry for the vulgar language,...goddamn miriam. (so sorry for the vulgar language, but i just had to!). this is SO good. and SO what i've been thinking about lately without knowing that i was thinking about it. but, that's how my february has been shaping up. just freakin living. love you so much girl. and i am just overwhelmed by the desire to hang out with you + spend time with you irl. what a dream! xoxoLizhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04471476965055071485noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1532204237192804954.post-77727733899678314412019-02-18T10:19:07.664-08:002019-02-18T10:19:07.664-08:00My thoughts exactly!!My thoughts exactly!!Miriamhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07553429775991816622noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1532204237192804954.post-64533033407607599782019-02-17T05:34:34.558-08:002019-02-17T05:34:34.558-08:00This might be my favorite post you've done yet...This might be my favorite post you've done yet! Yes, self-improvement is great, but WHEN DID OUR EYELASHES STOP BEING GOOD ENOUGH?! Emeliehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08996278385582582717noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1532204237192804954.post-61271652929785142222019-02-15T07:01:32.747-08:002019-02-15T07:01:32.747-08:00Haha phew, I'm glad you said that! You can'...Haha phew, I'm glad you said that! You can't mess with recycling ;-)<br />Yes, I can identify with everything you said. I, too have felt like a bad yogi for eating meat and drinking wine, and for having no desire to ever teach. <br /><br />It takes a while to find your way through the muddle of self-improvment hype. That New Yorker article was a wake-up call for me, because it highlighted how I bought into the "you have to be better"-mentality that's being sold to us. <br /><br />I'm so glad that you're finding ways to be kinder to yourself! Self-awareness is the most important step, everything else will come with time and practice. We got this!Miriamhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07553429775991816622noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1532204237192804954.post-16410245663140982672019-02-15T06:40:13.278-08:002019-02-15T06:40:13.278-08:00I fully bought into the popular belief that workin...I fully bought into the popular belief that working a job isn't enough. I thought I needed to make money from my blog (which I never did) or with my writing, and try my hardest to aim for making a living with it or die trying. <br />Why? Because social media told me so?<br /><br />It's ridiculous, but yup, I fell for it. Good for you for not being as gullible as me!<br /><br />I hear ya on the disconneting front, I get that too. Sometimes all the great yoga poses on Insta are more discouraging than inspiring. But a few days away from it (and doing some sun salutations without taking videos of it), and it's all good again!<br />Miriamhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07553429775991816622noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1532204237192804954.post-51590405677161349022019-02-15T06:30:28.553-08:002019-02-15T06:30:28.553-08:00Ha, I love that you collectively got rid of the se...Ha, I love that you collectively got rid of the self help books! It's ironic that something that's supposed to help can make you feel worse, isn't it.<br /> <br />Learning your grandfather's lesson is one of those things in life that take time. We have all heard it, but really understanding what it means takes years. Rich has been saying similar stuff to me and lives by it, but I'm just now starting to fully get what it means. And it's the best feeling in the world to understand that we are okay the way we are, no improvements necessary!Miriamhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07553429775991816622noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1532204237192804954.post-4048069145084058142019-02-14T09:34:55.400-08:002019-02-14T09:34:55.400-08:00Girl! I feel like you have been in my brain lately...Girl! I feel like you have been in my brain lately and that we should be best friends! haha I have found myself separating from my yoga community slowly over the last few years, as much as I love the bendy, movey part of it I found myself getting angry, with myself, when trying to live up to the philosophy that was a large part of the community. I felt bad that I wasn't taking my passions and "making them my career", that I still wanted to not "go with the flow" on every aspect of my life, that I was still working a 9-5 job because, I don't know, I like paying my bills and that I was still eating gluten and meat and GASP*... processed foods. When I found time to read I was reading Pema Chodron and Brene Brown (who are AMAZING, dont' get me wrong) but realizing I was nowhere near where I "should" be to be living an "inspired" life and felt worse about myself than when I was living in blissful ignorance. While I'm all for improving your life and the world you live in, the pressure to live some kind of noteworthy life can be overwhelming! I have stepped away from surrounding myself with the constant reminders that I am falling short and tried to be kinder to myself lately and have found that my relationship with myself and my immediate "people" has definitely improved. But don't worry...I still recycle!AJWhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13743265665576525498noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1532204237192804954.post-26051004643146183952019-02-14T07:38:20.890-08:002019-02-14T07:38:20.890-08:00One thing about being connected to everything and ...One thing about being connected to everything and everyone is the pressure to be your own boss bullshit. I LOVE my 9-5! I get annoyed when I read things that try to tell me otherwise. <br />There are times where I feel the need to disconnect from it all. I might even skip my yoga for 2-3 days because I need to just be. although, my body starts to revolt from the lack of movement by day three so I try hard not to be away too long. Mary Longhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17613361631330955684noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1532204237192804954.post-35176005853869376952019-02-14T06:33:03.119-08:002019-02-14T06:33:03.119-08:00Long ago, (nearly 60 years), my grandfather said t...Long ago, (nearly 60 years), my grandfather said to me: "Marijke, life is not a dress rehearsal, you only get this one shot. Be kind, be content, be honest. I still hear his voice, can see his kind, always smiling incredibly blue eyes. When self help books came out in the eighties, my friends and I read lots of those, and by late nineties we chucked them. They were frustrating, ballasting, and unhelpful. Enjoy your life, be kind, be content, be honest. Write your own little book of rules, don't let a perfect stranger be your guide. Being just your self is great! And more than enough <3 Yay good post Miri!<br /> Marijkehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10714951803483522693noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1532204237192804954.post-74591126857173662322019-02-13T13:21:09.168-08:002019-02-13T13:21:09.168-08:00Oh I know! I'm always struggling when I'm ...Oh I know! I'm always struggling when I'm not "doing anything", thinking I should do leg lifts or like Instagram posts when I'm watching TV tp be "productive". Such nonsense. <br />And you just had a baby, that's a major job that does not need any more guilt or pressure added on to it!<br /><br />That article really was an eye opener for me. I've been on the path towards taking it easier since last year, but I did not realize that I still feel so guilty when I'm not "working on myself". We actually don't have to?! What a life-changing approach to life!Miriamhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07553429775991816622noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1532204237192804954.post-54597247144765569902019-02-13T11:05:43.513-08:002019-02-13T11:05:43.513-08:00Yes yes yes! I'm already in a weird season in ...Yes yes yes! I'm already in a weird season in life: the newborn is doing well and I'm ready to focus a little more on myself again, but woah it's overwhelming! I've had to give myself permission to just exist, especially being in survival mode so much lately. It's hard to feel like you're not "moving forward" all the time.Emily (Em Busy Living)https://www.blogger.com/profile/10219696811111339618noreply@blogger.com