tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1532204237192804954.post8232178505655774360..comments2023-09-28T00:15:27.471-07:00Comments on Farm Girl: Sad.Miriamhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/07553429775991816622noreply@blogger.comBlogger5125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1532204237192804954.post-64679301208563187532015-05-15T18:22:13.101-07:002015-05-15T18:22:13.101-07:00Omg Jane, you have no idea what your comment means...Omg Jane, you have no idea what your comment means to me. You just described all my emotions and feelings perfectly, in a neat little package. Amazing! When you said "although you have made the decision, and in general are content with it, sometimes you can feel sad about a life that you won't live. That doesn't mean that your life isn't fabulous but we sometimes yearn for something 'other'", I was vigorously nodding my head in agreement. That's exactly it!!! Thank you, thank you, THANK YOU for commenting and getting me. You, right there, is my I love blogging. I may not know people IRL who know what it feels like, but there are people out there who get it! Thank you. Have a wonderful weekend, tribe sister!Miriamhttp://www.farmgirlmiriam.ca/noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1532204237192804954.post-33164410438055860722015-05-15T08:40:51.176-07:002015-05-15T08:40:51.176-07:00I know this is an old post but I needed to comment...I know this is an old post but I needed to comment on it. I've struggled with this myself as it's a decision I made for very similar reasons. I had actually imagined as a teen and then as a 20 something that I would 'one day' be a mother and live the husband with 2 kids life in a postcard house, but life is far messier (and enjoyable) than that. I find it amazing how many people don't seem to understand the no kids option. People love to put you in a tick box of 1. mother (normal) 2. hate kids (evil) 3. 'career woman' (scary) 4. Biologically can't have kids (sad basket case), and can't understand if you don't fall into one of their categories. There is of course nothing wrong with fitting neatly into one of those categories (and are obviously not what the bracketed assumptions are) but life choices are far more complicated than a check box.<br />Sometimes people don't seem to understand that although you have made the decision, and in general are content with it, sometimes you can feel sad about a life that you won't live. That doesn't mean that your life isn't fabulous but we sometimes yearn for something 'other'. I'm sorry that you are suffering from occasional sadness about this too but you're not alone. You're not strange, you're just choosing a life that is right for you instead of following a PowerPoint presentation of life. Plus dogs are brilliant ;) Good luck with it.Jane Watsonhttp://www.scentofastory.com/noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1532204237192804954.post-77690598037683349782014-04-25T10:26:50.288-07:002014-04-25T10:26:50.288-07:00I just stumbled across this post. It is so funny I...I just stumbled across this post. It is so funny I used the Robert Frost in one of my childfree posts. I have always thought it should be a 100% decision to have kids, not a well maybe I'll do this because that is what everyone does or because I "might" be missing out. For me the pull is not strong enough. Honestly, P and I are so happy just the two of us and I think we don't want to make room for another. It is our life and our choice to use the time we are given as we see fit. As always a really well expressed point-of-view. Food, Booze, & Baggagehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02975014929164134881noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1532204237192804954.post-4401449210344578942013-06-18T03:53:47.166-07:002013-06-18T03:53:47.166-07:00i think this is a very brave decision :) and it...i think this is a very brave decision :) and it's not selfish at all, you just choose what you thought was best for you.Dhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01992471079216649793noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1532204237192804954.post-29049883865461271122013-06-17T16:31:53.136-07:002013-06-17T16:31:53.136-07:00This is SO SO SO perfect, Miriam. I will never ha...This is SO SO SO perfect, Miriam. I will never have kids either, mostly because I don't want them. I always get asked why not, which I feel is almost insensitive - they don't know my circumstances, and I get really annoyed. I don't ask people why they want kids - it's just a choice.<br />We are of that age though - when people start looking at the clock and worry about us running out of time. Ugh.<br />Anyways, I identify IMMENSELY and couldn't have expressed my emotions on the subject any better.<br />CATS NOT KIDS! (or dogs? anyways....)JustChristinenhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06565166262651748617noreply@blogger.com