Friday, 24 October 2014

Fashion Friday: Rain and shine

Happy Friday my friends! It may not look like it, but in some of these photos it is actually raining. But after only 5 or 10 minutes, the rain stopped, and the sun broke though. Since I'm in a reflective mood tonight, I thought it appropriate to use this as a metaphor for life. Yes, that's right, let's go deep!
This time of year lends itself to reflection, don't you think? The juxtaposition of nature slowing down, yet the beginning of a busy social season (Thanksgiving, Halloween, Christmas, New Year's) gets my thinking (and creative) juices flowing. My birthday is coming up in December, and that, too gets me in a contemplative mood. Where am I in life? Have I reached my goals? How are all the skeletons in my closet doing?
Oh, have I not mentioned my skeletons yet? No, I don't think I have. Well, it's about time!
My skeletons are all those tedious little annoyances that have accumulated over time: Conflicts, goals I tried to achieve (but didn't), changes I planned to make (but didn't), unresolved problems. In short, unfinished business. The things that keep you up at night. Stuff that you carry around with you at the back of your mind - that you try to forget, but never manage to forget for long.
Until about a year ago, that list was a mile long. The skeletons were so plentiful, they formed an army; an army that sometimes threatened to run me over and leave me lying defeated, with no strength left to get back up. They all had one thing in common: they had to do with people. Mostly it was open or subtle conflicts, usually with family or friends; and then there were all those extra tasks I had agreed to, but that left me stressed out and overworked.  
Often I worried that I didn't do life right: Did I have enough friends? Was I a nice enough person? Should I be more ambitions? Or less? Was I missing out on anything?
But lately, I find myself less and less worried about these things. When it comes to dealing with people, I have finally, finally come to a few conclusions: 
I am worthy of respect - if someone doesn't treat me with such, I will eliminate that person from my life.
That means, of course, trying to treat every person with kindness and respect as well. If there are misunderstandings, talk about them, don't let them fester.
When it comes to friends, quality over quantity wins every time. 
Not everybody will like me, and that's okay. Don't sweat it!

Nice'n easy, isn't it? And to think that it took me almost 35 years to finally get it! But knowing it and applying it to your own life are two very different things. Over the last year, something has clicked. It's difficult to find the right words - I have found myself, grown into myself, found an inner calm and confidence that doesn't rely on outside approval. I know that I'm good enough.   

As for life's little problems: I am more aware now that after rain, there will always be sunshine. Even the most horrible day will pass, and the next one won't be as bad. I believe that with all my heart: life can always get better! 
And that's just the most comforting thought.

Pose copied from the fabulous Amy (imitation is the sincerest form of flattery, right?!)

Sweater: Joe Fresh (last year); hat: Joe Fresh (old); skirt: Le Chateau (very old); tights: Shoppers Drug Mart; boots: Sterling Shoes (old); necklace: Smart Set (old); umbrella: forgotten at our house
by a friend, never returned (you lose, I use)

Yay for Friday!

xo Miriam

Linking up with Rachel the Hat and Penniless Socialite

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Wednesday, 22 October 2014

Pet peeves

Pet peeves - we all have them. I have so many to choose from - should I share them all? I decided not to, because I would come across as a judgemental bitch because, who has the time?

So here are my top 10 pet peeves:

Complainers. People who love to complain, but have zero intention of changing anything about it. If you don't like it, change it; if you don't want to change anything, stop complaining about it.

Purty. I don't know why, but I hate it when people say purty instead of pretty. Why mess up a perfectly good word?

Like. Kids, please stop saying that in every sentence. Just stop it. It makes you sound dumb.

Literally. If you say "I literally died", that means you did, in fact, die. Which of course you didn't, since you were alive and well enough to make that statement.

Cellphone noise. Texting with the keyboard sound on is the worst; followed closely by having an annoying incoming text ringtone. Unless you have Rue's whistle, that one is awesome!

Personal space invaders. Brr, I don't like that one at all. When I slowly back off, that means you are too close!

Vague Facebook statuses. People who hint at something being wrong, but when they get inevitably asked what it is, say that "they don't want to talk about it". Why did you post it in the first place then??

Tapping fingers. Especially when they have long nails.

Abbreviations. Most of the time I can't remember what they stand for. Please, just use the full word?

Apple/tomato stickers. I don't find the stickers themselves annoying, but hate my husband's habit to stick them to the counter or cupboard. Argh!

What are some of your pet peeves? Tell us!

xo Miriam

Helene in Between Blogtober

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Tuesday, 21 October 2014

Ball dropper

So, I basically dropped the ball on Blogtober. Not that I'm really surprised - challenges have never been my strength. Be it 30-day fitness challenges, diets, bootcamp, yoga, writing, blogging - put any sort of restraint on me, and my inner teenage rebel comes out. Just when I thought I had outgrown it! ;-)

Instead of catching up on the prompts, I did a whole bunch of other little improvements on the blog: 
I updated my AboutFarmlife, and Outfits pages. Take a look! My goal was to streamline this website better, and have various posts easier accessible. Currently I'm working on the "Musings" page, which will take me some time - it has the most posts on it, 120 of them!
I had to use html code, and showed that bad boy who's boss. I'm learning, slowly but surely, and it gets me all sorts of excited!

Apart from that, we enjoyed the (maybe, but hopefully not) last day of sunshine on an unseasonably warm day last Sunday. Instead of catching up on emails and blog reading (like I had planned), I decided to screw it and hung out with the hubby and dogs by the pond. It was delightful! 

Hopefully I will manage to participate in Blogtober a couple more times - for example, tomorrow's prompt is pet peeves, and I can think of quite a few already!  

See ya tomorrow!
xo Miriam

Here are some more pictures from Sunday:

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