Wednesday 2 August 2017

Finding your gift

It has been said that every person is born with a unique gift. Finding that gift and using it is what will make you successful.
I have spent a long time searching for my gift. Is it just me, or is it really hard figuring your own strengths? For me it is. I'm a very average person, okay at some things, but not outstanding at anything. 

But then, I figured it out. Not by myself, but with the help of others. Asking for help is another thing that's difficult for me, and I blame my parents for that. They never ask anyone for help, and it must be in my genes or something. 

Fortunately, help has come my way without me having to ask for it. People are awesome like that. 
Ever since I started opening up about my life online, kind people have responded to that. 
The emails, comments and messages I receive tell me that we all have similar fears and anxieties. But since so many of us are hiding them so well, it can feel like we are the only ones. I for sure know what it's like to think you're alone. 
I know what it's like to feel like you're a freak, because you think you're so different from everybody else around you.   
I know what it's like to want to be normal - but never quite managing it. 
I know what it's like to be met with uncomprehending faces when you tell other people about your choices. 

I learnt that owning your story takes courage. As Brene Brown said:

"Owning our story and loving ourselves through that process is the bravest thing that we will ever do."

Is this my gift? Laying my soul bare, sharing my truth and being as honest as possible?
I want it to be. Because it feels so right to do it, and I so hope it helps other people to not be ashamed about being themselves. 
Owning our humanness, our flaws and quirks, is something that will set us free.

One of the reasons I wrote my book is that I want to let you all know that being different is okay. 
Even if you're doing something that other people don't understand. 
Following your heart isn't always seen as the smart choice - but in my experience, it's the only way to live.

My wish is that by sharing my story, I can inspire other people to make their own unusual choices. 
Because you know what?
Your heart will never mislead you. And by listening to it, you will discover a life that's happier and more fulfilling than you ever imagined possible. 

xoxo Miriam

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  1. You do have a gift with putting it all out there. I think we all wish we could be so brave sometimes. Congrats on finishing writing your book! I can't wait to hear more.

    1. Right now, I'm playing the waiting game. And I'm terrible at it! I only sent my book to the publishing agency a week ago, but the waiting has been agony. Patience has never been my strong suit, and it's really being tested now.
      To keep distracted and busy, there will be a LOT of blogging for the next while, so I guess that's good ;-)

      I'm not really brave, Emily. I'm actually one of the most fearful people I know. But I have a relentless, nagging inner voice, that won't leave me alone until I speak the truth. I don't know if it's my conscious, or just a really annoying personality trait, but that's how it is. I can't seem to figure out my sh*t until I put it out there for the world to see!

  2. So true! You always have to follow your heart <3
    XO Ellen from Ask Away

    1. It's the only way to lasting peace and happiness!
      Thanks for stopping by!

  3. That's a good gift. Kind of the type that keeps on giving because it inspires others to be themselves in a pay-it-forward way.

    Congrats on finishing your book! That is so, so exciting.

    1. The whole process of writing it and reliving my story has been incredibly cathartic. And it's addictive - I want to write more 😊
      It's kinda hard to find your purpose when you decide not to become a mother - but it's also exciting and such a privilege. What a wild ride!

  4. Your words, free spirit and fashion sense are your gift. Keep on sharing :0)

    1. Mary, I will never, in a million years, find the words to express what your comment means to me.
      In my book, you will learn about my long, colourful history of getting outfits for interviews/first impressions spectacularly wrong - I mean, it's almost a gift, seeing how much I failed at it.
      Hearing you say that not only did I manage to dress semi-appropriately, but to also being credited with having a gift for fashion - that means a LOT. More than a lot, it's EVERYTHING. Just wait until your read my embarrassing past!


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