Tuesday, 4 September 2018

Our Enneagram types

Have you guys ever done an Enneagram Test? I never have, until today, and I'm blown away by the results! They are really accurate, you guys. I don't know anything about the science or the background of the test, because I literally stumbled over it this morning while doing a good old-fashioned stalking of old Sister Style posts from A Beautiful Mess. 
I always loved their Sister Style series, and I get nostalgic when the seasons change, thus the walk down their memory lane. In one of their posts Elsie mentions her Enneagram type (she's a type 7), and since I had nothing better to do this morning, I decided to do an Enneagram test for me and Rich
Like I said: it's scarily accurate.
I'm a type 4, and I found two different websites explaining that type. The first link describes it short and blunt: 
"The Individualist: sensitive, introspective type: expressive, dramatic, self-absorbed, and temperamental."  
The second, longer (and nicer) version I found is 100%  accurate. So much so that I almost got creeped out. How does this mysterious Internet person know me so well? 
They call type 4 "The Romantic" (yup, that's me) who has sensitive feelings and is warm and perceptive.
Some other characteristics include: 
  • "give me plenty of compliments. they mean a lot to me" (they sure do)
  • "don't tell me I'm too sensitive or that I'm overreacting!" (hell, no!)
  • I like my ability to find meaning in life
  • I like my ability to establish warm connections with people
  • I like being unique and being seen as unique by others
  • what's hard about being a four is experiencing dark moods of emptiness and despair
  • I feel guilty when I disappoint people
  • I fear being abandoned
  • I expect too much of myself and life
  • as a child I felt like I didn't fit in
Spot.on.

Richard is a type 8, which the first website describes as "The Challenger: The powerful, dominating type; self-confident, decisive, willful, and confrontational."
The longer version describes type 8 as "The Asserter" who is direct, self-reliant, self-confident, and protective with some of the following qualities:
  • "don't gossip about me or betray my trust" (that applies 100%)
  • "I often speak in an assertive way. Don't automatically assume it's a personal attack." (This is soooo true!)
  • he likes being independent and self-reliant
  • he's getting all the enjoyment out of life he can (again, so accurate)
  • what's hard about being an eight is overwhelming people with bluntness; scaring them away without meaning to
  • he never forgets injuries or injustices
  • getting high blood pressure when people don't obey the rules or when things don't go right 
  • as a child he seized control so he wouldn't be controlled

I love doing personality tests, because it not only helps me figure out who I am, but it also helps in our relationship. Even though we have been together for 16 years, once in a while we still have communication problems, or misunderstand the other's intentions. Reading about our types helps both of us understand the other person better. 

If you'd like to take the test (it only takes about 5 minutes), click here.

xoxo Miriam



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  1. I'm mostly type 2 (the helper) with a hefty dose of type nine (the peacemaker) close behind. Definitely true haha.

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    1. Isn't it crazy how accurate that test is? We even use some of the wording when we describe something (Rich has said for years that he feels his blood pressure rising when he gets annoyed - I flip out when people accuse me of overreacting) - it's eerie!
      Being a helper and peacemaker seems like the most perfect personality for becoming a mom soon. You are totally up for the job! It's getting close now, isn't it?

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  2. And I am the 7, he adventurer. 'Nuff said hahaha. Bang on!

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    1. Haha yup, that's accurate! The test is really good, scarily so.

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